Re: Breaking the #1 rule of friendship?

feeds@yuku.com (Naia Zifu) — Sat, 22 Nov 2008 03:55:49 GMT

I wouldn't date a friend's ex, 'cause it would be too disrespectful of the friend. Besides which, exes are usually exes for a reason. So unless they broke up over something petty, like "I don't like the way she dresses," or whatever, the same flaws that made it not work with the friend would probably make it not work for me.

Re: Breaking the #1 rule of friendship?

feeds@yuku.com (elsieaustin) — Sat, 22 Nov 2008 03:02:18 GMT

A couple of you cracked me up:

LK:

She actually blamed me for introducing them (of course I didn't tell her to date him!)

Xenasgrrl:

In the lesbian world (at least the circles I've experienced) if you never dated anyone's ex, you'd never date.

Re: Breaking the #1 rule of friendship?

feeds@yuku.com (4sakenshadowxsoldierlette) — Fri, 21 Nov 2008 03:54:47 GMT

Xenasgrrl wrote:
In the lesbian world (at least the circles I've experienced) if you never dated anyone's ex, you'd never date.

that's the first thing that ran through my mind when i first read the question lol u took...

Re: Breaking the #1 rule of friendship?

feeds@yuku.com (Xenasgrrl) — Fri, 21 Nov 2008 02:53:11 GMT

I still say it all depends...some exes get along great as friends and have no problem hanging out or having a friend date them. But again, if you are scared to discuss it with your friend, thats a good indication that she won't be ok with it, and you might want to walk away.

Re: Breaking the #1 rule of friendship?

feeds@yuku.com (Nanziniemi) — Fri, 21 Nov 2008 02:31:19 GMT

Xenasgrrl wrote:
In the lesbian world (at least the circles I've experienced) if you never dated anyone's ex, you'd never date.

see I had no choice!! :P

Re: Breaking the #1 rule of friendship?

feeds@yuku.com (panda2oo5) — Fri, 21 Nov 2008 01:58:01 GMT

Ya, for the most part its a no no! I agree, if it feels wrong it probably is....

Re: Breaking the #1 rule of friendship?

feeds@yuku.com (Aresbitch) — Fri, 21 Nov 2008 00:17:41 GMT

No, never. Not for any reason. Even is she *says* it's okay, it never is. There will be some weirdness.

And if you do it without telling her, unless she's the coolest chick on the planet, be prepared for the sh*t to hit the fan.

Re: Breaking the #1 rule of friendship?

feeds@yuku.com (sofialindsay) — Thu, 20 Nov 2008 18:01:35 GMT

Xenasgrrl wrote:
In the lesbian world (at least the circles I've experienced) if you never dated anyone's ex, you'd never date.

Right! Or you have to go to another city to get a date.
I think I've dated more of my friends exes when I was dating guys than since I started to date girls. Those experiences alone told me NOT to do it!!...

Re: Breaking the #1 rule of friendship?

feeds@yuku.com (Xenasgrrl) — Thu, 20 Nov 2008 17:05:06 GMT

In the lesbian world (at least the circles I've experienced) if you never dated anyone's ex, you'd never date.

Re: Breaking the #1 rule of friendship?

feeds@yuku.com (Nanziniemi) — Thu, 20 Nov 2008 17:04:44 GMT

Well ive done it.. sometimes you cant ignor what you feel.. i ended up in a 2 year relationship with the ex of my aunt..:P

Re: Breaking the #1 rule of friendship?

feeds@yuku.com (brabmuffin) — Thu, 20 Nov 2008 15:17:41 GMT

a friends ex is totally off limits, its like getting left overs... no matter the situation.. I wouldn't go there

Re: Breaking the #1 rule of friendship?

feeds@yuku.com (PBODYMLI) — Thu, 20 Nov 2008 12:23:16 GMT

I like your thinking eve...and there is still time...i think, that's if you can get ahold of LG.

Re: Breaking the #1 rule of friendship?

feeds@yuku.com (Xenasgrrl) — Thu, 20 Nov 2008 12:19:06 GMT

Depends. IF your friend means a lot to you, talk to her about it, before you date her ex. If you aren't comfortable talking to her about it, it probably means you know she won't be ok with it, so that should make your choice easier.

eta: this would have been perfect for the Ask LG column in the XOC Weekly Scrolls!

Re: Breaking the #1 rule of friendship?

feeds@yuku.com (TheJollyApe) — Thu, 20 Nov 2008 06:52:53 GMT

Sure it is, but it's all up to each situation and persons involved. Rule of thumb, if it feels okay it is okay. If it feel as if you're doing something wrong, then you are doing something wrong.

Re: Breaking the #1 rule of friendship?

feeds@yuku.com (LadyKate63) — Thu, 20 Nov 2008 03:57:55 GMT

I do think it depends on when and on how your friend feels about said ex.

A friend of mine dated my ex for a while ... which I didn't mind at all, except for her endless bitching to me about what a schmuck he was. She actually blamed me for introducing them (of course I didn't tell her to date him! ).

Re: Breaking the #1 rule of friendship?

feeds@yuku.com (Phoenix13) — Thu, 20 Nov 2008 02:24:39 GMT

well, barely one month after the break up, when your best friend is clearly not over it, even though she was the one to end it because things were so screwed up in the relationship, that is not okay. and can result in a loss of friendship of over 12 years, and not having had a proper conversation now for nearly 2 years.
...
yes.
um
yeahhh, but hey, it all depends on the situation really.

Breaking the #1 rule of friendship?

feeds@yuku.com (tinka182) — Thu, 20 Nov 2008 01:55:43 GMT

There are a few unwritten rules that help maintain a smooth and happy friendship. These can vary between letting her know if somethings stuck in her teeth -- discretly of course -- to never buying the same outfit as them. There is one rule, however, that I would like your opinion on...

Rule #1: Never ever date your friends ex.

Do you think this is a fair rule?