Re: I Think I Need Help

feeds@yuku.com (LadyKate63) — Tue, 13 May 2008 17:49:46 GMT

Good luck, gravitystar! You know I love to have you posting and I'm sure I'm not the only one... but in the end you have to do what's right for you.

Right now I'm trying to prioritize myself -- I've needed for some time to do a major clean-up in my office (accumulating clutter since 2001 or so!). It was actually my New Year's resolution, then...

Re: I Think I Need Help

feeds@yuku.com (faith102) — Tue, 13 May 2008 17:41:19 GMT

hey gravitystar.. i dont know how to give advise but i know what your going thu im 23 and all i do is come on line and look for anything to do with xena my family and friends too are worried that im too obsessed with it all .. but like i say every one has to have something to keep them saine in this world or they'd go mad .. and if any one says they have notting then there lieing because we all need somthng.. anyway like i said im not good at giving advie i've only just joined on here...

Re: I Think I Need Help

feeds@yuku.com (gravitystar) — Tue, 13 May 2008 17:06:14 GMT

Thanks for all of your interest guys. This is the reason I come here

Thank you Pandora for going back for the thread too. I thought I was done and dusted but quite a few of your points and your advice is very valid and helpful. I like aspects of my degree, and I certainly enjoy looking particulaly at the ancient texts. I have to say I enjoyed my dissertation, and I did spend a lot of my time, especially nearer the end and...

Re: I Think I Need Help

feeds@yuku.com (LadyKate63) — Tue, 13 May 2008 15:56:07 GMT

Very sensible advice, Pandora!

Re: I Think I Need Help

feeds@yuku.com (Pandora10) — Tue, 13 May 2008 11:07:22 GMT

I just wanted to add something to advise you've already gotten - Xena doesn't go away, you can always come back to it, and realise that you never really left it - even if you had to temporarily focus elsewhere. I've gone through the really obsessed 24/7 type Xena obsession (which was odd the first time because this was when I was watching the series but wasn't online, so I really was in my own (Xena) world - I think the internet is a far less internal way to exercise your...

Re: I Think I Need Help

feeds@yuku.com (Xenasgrrl) — Mon, 12 May 2008 04:41:41 GMT

awwww...I love Bridget Jones! "I like you just as you are." Who doesn't wanna hear that?

Re: I Think I Need Help

feeds@yuku.com (AmazonBard88) — Mon, 12 May 2008 04:18:13 GMT

Well that is all for now, I will talk to you more on MSN. In the words of Mr. Darcy from the Bridget Jones movie...

"We like you, just the way you are."

Agreed

Re: I Think I Need Help

feeds@yuku.com (tinka182) — Mon, 12 May 2008 04:17:02 GMT

hehe elsieaustin i meant i was shocked to read this article! those were just copied straight out of this article on internet addiction on if you are doing any of the following you may have a problem lol so obviously some wont apply... (especially the therapist one, hopefully)... apparently if you are doing those things then according to the article there may be a problem hehehe

Re: I Think I Need Help

feeds@yuku.com (Xenasgrrl) — Mon, 12 May 2008 04:10:06 GMT

Wow such great advice I'm not sure I can add anything more. Except be kind to yourself, and remember that sometimes we all need coping mechanisms, and Xena isn't the worst one we could use...lol. I hope you find some peace or learn about yourself by examining yourself and your life- and believe me, you are NOT alone in that. I'm still trying to figure out what I want to be when I grow up.

Oh and Jolly-

...

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feeds@yuku.com (everhope) — Mon, 12 May 2008 03:09:10 GMT

I guess at the end of my degree, knowing my degree subject tself is not where I'm going in life, I feel uncaring to the outcome.

Precisely, many a time I gave up on subjects in school because I knew I wasn't going down that path, and I think is a natural human reaction to get lazy with something that becomes useless to us. Of course your degree is still valueable, but not as valueable as it once would've been. i.e. in your first and second...

Re: I Think I Need Help

feeds@yuku.com (elsieaustin) — Mon, 12 May 2008 02:24:18 GMT

I understand, Gravitystar...I've written very long posts about my life (and then GWAC told me to quit apologizing for posting in my own thread, ). It's okay. Not only do I enjoy being able to write back to you + everyone else, but you've brought up a subject that I've done a lot of struggling through (and probably will continue to do so)--what it means to have an obsession and how to integrate it into the rest of your...

Re: I Think I Need Help

feeds@yuku.com (AmazonBard88) — Mon, 12 May 2008 01:26:58 GMT

Ok I'm seriously pissed off because I just wrote you a massive reply and it deleted it

Moving on, what I said was all just ramble anyway but I'll try and write the jist of it. Basically I can relate to how you're feeling; I've been questioning a lot of things since starting...

Re: I Think I Need Help

feeds@yuku.com (tinka182) — Mon, 12 May 2008 00:57:24 GMT

dude, i'm not that great with advice, but i was shocked to read this and now think i'm addicted to the 'net too

Signs of Internet addiction include the following:

1. Preoccupation with the Internet. (Thoughts about previous on-line activity or anticipation of the next on-line session.)
2. Use of the Internet in increasing amounts of time in order to achieve satisfaction.
3. Repeated, unsuccessful efforts to control, cut back, or stop Internet use....

Re: I Think I Need Help

feeds@yuku.com (4sakenshadowxsoldierlette) — Sun, 11 May 2008 21:31:57 GMT

wow great advice all of you!
and gravity, it seems like you've just taken a piece from my journal bc that pretty much is me too, except in my case it would be me starting uni than finishing.
so you're not alone!

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feeds@yuku.com (dahllaz) — Sun, 11 May 2008 21:04:02 GMT

Because to me at the end of the day, a job is a job. It pays the money and that's what it's for. I have never yearned to be a great person in history. I don't plan on making any type of worldly difference with my life. I just want to be content and happy.

This is pretty much how I feel.
I don't work to have some great career. I work to pay bills and have money to do the things I enjoy. Like having my computer, reading and the big money drain...

Re: I Think I Need Help

feeds@yuku.com (LadyKate63) — Sun, 11 May 2008 18:56:56 GMT

I've always had obsessions of one kind or another.

And I am well aware of the fact that my obsessions have interfered with my career at times. (Ironically, even obsessions that were related to my career ... like, when I was writing a book on a subject that greatly interested me, I ended up doing vastly more research than was needed, and was incredibly perfectionist about it and spent about 6 years working on it...

Re: I Think I Need Help

feeds@yuku.com (gravitystar) — Sun, 11 May 2008 18:51:07 GMT

Thanks for the opinions and advice guys...I'll give it some thought.

As for whether it's my opinion...well I guess that is a difficult question. Some of you one here (Ape, everhope and kam in particular) know how influential my friends can be, and you've also heard a great deal of my ranting in the past. So whether this is my opinion, or just the reaction of badness I feel after having one of those talks YET AGAIN with Vicky I don't know.

I do feel like...

Re: I Think I Need Help

feeds@yuku.com (LadyKate63) — Sun, 11 May 2008 18:34:51 GMT

Jolly Ape, very well said:

Change can never be forced, it's something that must come from inside of you. And it will only happen when you are truly determined to take your life in a new direction.

From gravitystar's post I do get the...

Re: I Think I Need Help

feeds@yuku.com (toxic64) — Sun, 11 May 2008 18:32:23 GMT

I agree wholeheartedly with The Jolly Ape.

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feeds@yuku.com (kamfl610) — Sun, 11 May 2008 18:05:41 GMT

Hey GravityStar,

Didn't know this had become a concern of yours....wish I'd been more there for you...real life has a tendency to intrude in our everyday lives...sigh....

As for the Xena thing...personally...I think since you're about to leave university..you've come to a crossroads in your life...deciding where to go..where you want to go...it's easy to get confused...and sometimes one of the things to get away from the confusion is to latch onto...

I Think I Need Help

feeds@yuku.com (gravitystar) — Sun, 11 May 2008 09:59:51 GMT

I've just had yet another chat with my housemate about hows she sees me as wasting my life. She's sees a potential in me and an intelligence that I don't appear to portray. The thing is, I know it's there...I just find myself not caring. This is difficult for me to admit aloud, never mind online to people I barely know but I need to put this down somewhere.

What she finds the most disturbing is the amount of time I spend on this particular subject...the amount of...